‘Hanggang kelan ka busy?’

I have been the recipient of this question, as well as the ‘interrogator’, many times — ‘Until when will you be busy?’**

I know that being busy all the time, because it is necessary, is every man’s bane… I read from somewhere that: Work expands to fit available time. I believe it.

… but being busy all the time for the sake of it? THAT is madness.

Being continually busy, I am convinced, will eventually lead to stress, especially when your efforts produce minimal or no results. You see, it will get to a point where something has to give way. It’s like filling a balloon with too much air. Eventually no more air will fit inside it and the balloon will do the only thing left for it to do — it will burst. I must concede, though, that there are cases where it is advisable to have busy periods within the day, week, month or year. Does ‘an idle mind is the devil’s workshop’ ring a bell?

So, what am I driving at? You see, people who are continuously busy over long periods are those that have difficulty saying ‘NO’ to anyone. As what I always say, no matter how good your intentions are, you cannot be everything to everyone… and no matter how hard you try, you cannot save the entire world. Even superheroes have to team up to tackle larger problems. Avengers alert!

You should learn to say no in a nice way. Make a list of those who need and deserve your time. They are the one’s you should give priority to. Anyone else comes next — if you have the time to spare.

Try saying instead: If I get all my own work done, I will consider your request. What does that really say? It says your work is important. If you get it done you will help. Naturally, if you cannot get it done you cannot help. It’s a soft way of saying no. Usually the one asking will get the idea and go find another person to ask.

By saying no you actually help other people to grow. Imagine if you always said yes to tying up your daughter’s shoe laces. If you never said no she would still be asking you to do it for her when she’s 25. By saying no you make her learn to do it for herself. Remember the old saying about giving a hungry person a fish to eat versus teaching the hungry person how to catch their own fish to eat?

By saying no we can free up more time for ourselves and those who need or deserve our time the most. Do not become a slave. Learning to say no will allow you to perform the tasks you really want to do and really need to do yourself at a much higher level of proficiency.

In his book ‘All You Can Do is All You Can Do But All You Can Do is Enough!’ , Al Williams exhorts you to not worry about things you can’t change, instead, focus on making your part of the world better, because when they click your lights out for the last time, you can’t have any regrets.

Simple. Give yourself a break! You also need time to relax. Time to recharge the batteries. Again, you cannot save the whole world. Don’t waste your energy giving it the old college try.

We’ll end up numb from playing video games
and we’ll get sick of having sex.
And we’ll get fat from eating candy
as we drink ourselves to death.
We’ll stay up late
making mix tapes, photoshopping pictures of ourselves
while we masturbate to these pixelated videos
of strangers fucking themselves.

We are very busy people,
We are very busy people.

There’s crusty socks
and stacks of pizza boxes
making trails straight to the bed.
And when we’re done sleeping
we’ll stay busy dreaming of the things
we don’t have yet.
Well there’s a long, long list of chores
and shit to do before we play,
oh let’s just piss away the day.(piss away the day)
Crank call the cops down at the station,
just for friendly conversation,
requesting songs they never play;
Let’s hear the one that goes like:

We are very busy people,
We are very busy people;
But we’ve always got time for new friends.

So come on over and knock on our door,
it’s open whatchu waitin’ for?
We might be sprawled out on the floor,
but we still make lovely company.
Pull up a chair, I’ll pour some tea,
We’ll shoot the shit, ’bout everything,
till you get sick of politics,
and flip on the TV screen,
we stare at the TV screen.
That Donnie Darko DVD has been repeating for a week,
and we know every single word.
(Every single word).
I’ve got an iPod like a pirate ship,
I’ll sail the seas
with fifty thousand songs I’ve never heard-
And all the best of them go
Fa la la la la la…
Fa la la la la la…

We are very busy people,
We are very busy people;
But we’ve always got time for new friends.
Yeah.
Fa la la la la la…
Fa la la la la la…

— The Limousines, Very Busy People

** How much time should we be spending together? Well, every couple is different, each with different needs. What works for some may not work for us.

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About Seeing with Brahmin eyes
My sense of humor can be keen, sarcastic, silly or corny -- sometimes all at once. I enjoy meeting new people with no preconceived ideas about what or what is not possible. You get much more out of life by being open minded and willing. I'm an easy going, good-natured person who loves life and loves people. I'm both optimistic and realistic and pretty objective when it comes to assessing situations, events, etc. In general I am a very positive person and you'll usually find we with a smile on my face.

One Response to ‘Hanggang kelan ka busy?’

  1. Diwata Luna says:

    So how do I say No to my boss nicely? :p Last year I became so busy I became a workaholic. I felt guilty doing nothing on weekends even if before, all I wanted was too read a book in bed all day on a Saturday!

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